I was rushing things too much in terms of wanting a family, marriage, etc
i mean this in an advice way and not to be hurtful, but if you haven't talked to someone in a decade (or if you only just met someone) don't jump straight to talking about having a family/marriage. that's like the final boss of a relationship, and you've just overwhelmed your potential partner at level 1 with moves they can't handle yet
take it slow and try to get to know them better first.